This is not selfishness…

Even if you enjoy giving to people love, kindness, laugh, company, time, being present to listen to them etc. you feel like something is missing. You feel like there is something that was supposed to be there for you. For you. It’s not selfish to feel like that. Nevertheless, is really normal. Giving to people might be a pleasure to you and you know it that you offer just to offer because you want to. You offer just because this is the way you feel this is the way you do. You offer without even expecting anything from anyone. Even when sometimes people just don’t understand that and it’s hard for them to believe and realize it.

And then, there it comes a time when you think and feel that something is missing. That feeling is something that you didn’t expect from yourself to feel. But if you think about it it’s totally something really natural and normal. In your weakest or not moments you start feeling like everything you’ve been giving you need it too. You want it too. This is not bad. On the other hand, you are human too and you have every right to feel like that. You feel too. You have emotions, soul and spirit too.

Sometimes giving without receiving might cause a little bit of stress or pressure from ourselves to ourselves. For a simple reason. Because we want to make others and see others happy. It’s not bad to give but it’s not selfish to feel like you deserve a little bit of receiving too. Our needs as humans include receiving love and kindness etc. It’s in our nature. Just because we’re not only body. We’re soul and spirit.

So, as soon as we start feeling like that with one way or another we start ask from the others to satisfied those feelings. It’s like asking for a hug but without exactly asking for it. It’s kind of getting close to the other person so we’ll somehow find a way to hug them. Not because is like a shame to ask about it. Definitely not. But just because you definitely don’t want to seem like a selfish act. Because everything you’ve been doing you are doing it with love and care. So basically is the similar way you are trying to ask them to fill that “emptiness” or to connect what “is missing” inside of you.

In order to help others, make them happy, show them love, kindness, care etc. there is one thing that we have to check before we think we are able to do it even if we are willing to do it. Make sure you love yourself, you trust yourself, you recognize and accept your scars, your disadvantages/ advantages. That nobody is perfect. Giving to others needs a lot of strength because somehow you put others first than yourself and this is not bad though. But if you are feeling that you don’t take back what you give even though you do it without interest, don’t be ashamed of that. You can tell your friends or anyone you want what you feel and I’m sure you will take back a lot more of what you’ve been giving so far.